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 Summer Camps Make
         Kids Resilient I recently spoke to
         300 camp directors about how to make children more resilient
         to life stress. Summer camps, we discovered, are perfect
         places to help children optimize their psychosocial
         development. After all, summer
         camps are places where children get the experiences they
         need to bolster their range of coping strategies. There are
         the simple challenges of learning how to build a fire, going
         on a hike, or conquering a high ropes course. There are the
         much more complex challenges of getting along with a new
         group of peers, learning how to ask for help from others, or
         taking manageable amount of risks without a parent following
         after you. The best camping
         experiences offer these opportunities for manageable amounts
         of risk and responsibility, what I term "the risk takers
         advantage" (see my book Too Safe for Their Own Good for more
         examples). The worst camps pander to children as if they are
         entitled little creatures whose parents are paying big sums
         of money. Children at camp can't be treated like customers
         if they are going to get anything out of the experience.
         They need to be treated like students whose caregivers, the
         counselors, know what the kids need to grow. Camps that pull this
         off and make kids, especially teens, put away the makeup,
         stash the iPods, get a little dirty and even a little
         frustrated while having fun and making new friends, are the
         kinds of camps that offer children the best of what they
         need. Looking at those experiences from the vantage point of
         my research on resilience, I know that camps help our
         children develop great coping strategies when they provide
         seven things all children need: 1)   
         New relationships, not just with peers, but with trusted
         adults other than their parents. Just think about how useful
         a skill like that is: being able to negotiate on your own
         with an adult for what you need. 2)    A
         powerful identity that makes the child feel confident in
         front of others. Your child may not be the best on the ropes
         course, the fastest swimmer, or the next teen idol when he
         sings, but chances are that a good camp counselor is going
         to help your child find something to be proud of that he can
         do well. 3)   
         Camps help children feel in control of their lives, and
         those experiences of self-efficacy can travel home as easily
         as a special art project or the pine cone they carry in
         their backpack. Children who experience themselves as
         competent will be better problem-solvers in new situations
         long after their laundry is cleaned and the smell of the
         campfire forgotten. 4)   
         Camps make sure that all children are treated fairly. The
         wonderful thing about camps is that every child starts
         without the baggage they carry from school. They may be a
         geek or the child with dyslexia. At camp they will both find
         opportunities to just be kids who are valued for who they
         are. No camps tolerate bullying (and if they do, you should
         withdraw your child immediately). 5)   
         At camp kids get what they need to develop physically.
         Ideally, fresh air, exercise, a balance between routine and
         unstructured time, and all the good food their bodies need.
         Not that smores (marshmallows, chocolate and graham cracker
         treats) don't have a place at the campfire, but a good camp
         is also about helping children find healthy
         lifestyles. 6)   
         Perhaps best of all, camps offer kids a chance to feel like
         they belong. All those goofy chants and team songs, the
         sense of common purpose and attachment to the identity that
         camps promote go a long way to offering children a sense of
         being rooted. 7)   
         And finally, camps can offer children a better sense of
         their culture. It might be skit night, or a special camp
         program that reflects the values of the community that
         sponsors the camp, or maybe it's just a chance for children
         to understand themselves a bit more as they learn about
         others. Camps give kids both cultural roots and the chance
         to understand others who have cultures very different than
         their own. That's an impressive
         list of factors that good camping experiences provide our
         children. Whether it is a subsidized day camp in a city or a
         luxurious residential facility up in the mountains, camps
         can give our kids a spicy combination of experiences that
         prepare them well for life. Add to that experience the
         chance for a child's parents to reinforce at home what the
         child nurtures at camp, and maybe, just maybe, we'll find in
         our communities and schools amazing kids who show the
         resilience to make good decisions throughout their
         lives. |